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Confidence Is Key

 

My main mission is to stop people from saying:

“I could never pull this off.”


It is my personal belief that style exhibits one’s personality. And everyone has a beautiful personality. Style doesn’t mean you have to keep up with the latest trends, and it doesn’t mean that you have to abide by this society’s standards for appearance acceptance. There are ways of making style your own. Giving it your own spin. And that is of high importance. You don’t want to look like you just stole the outfit right off the mannequin. Think of it as improving the outfit that mannequin had on. My mission is to give your self confidence and self esteem a kick through style. Because lets be honest we all feel great when we know we look fantastic. Its almost as certain as the law of physics. So lets just call it the Law of Fashion Physics.

You will be surprised how much little tweaks here and there make such an impressionable difference. I am here to help you with this every step of the way. And the first step is to stop saying “I could never pull this off.” Stop doubting yourself and what that shirt might say about you. Sure you just might put it on and it might not look great. But what if you missed out on a dress that could have made you look like a movie star? What if it looked so intimidating that you never tried it one solely because of the fear of what it might have reviled?

 

Try on Everything. Because you never know until you try

 

My biggest rule is try on everything.

Let’s be honest here. Society’s view on women (and men too) is brutal. You must be a size 2 and 5″10 with no hips and huge breasts. For men the ultra-thin look hasn’t escaped you either. Extremely thin male models have rocked the runway which just looks flat our abnormal. Or men feel that you must be 6′ 3″ with a whittled small waist and muscles so defined that only steroids seems (which has developed a new type of eating disorder called muscle dysmorphiobia) to be your only hope.

Let’s have a little history lesson shall we?

True Form vs. Unattainable Perfection

“Mannequins were once made extra thin to show the lines of the clothing for sale to the best advantage. Today the shape of the ideal woman is indistinguishable from that of a mannequin (Comer, 2010).” Dove’s campaign in 2005 placed 6 women of various sizes and shapes saying that they were “courageous” for showing their less than perfect body. The amusing factor is that these women who’s sizes ranged from 6 to 12 and the average American woman is a size 14. The campaign backfired and the controversy reflected that once again the predominant belief in Western society that extreme–typically unattainable–thinness is the aesthetic ideal for women (Comer, 2010).

“In 1968, the average fashion model was 8% thinner than the typical woman. Today, models are 20% thinner.”

-Ronald J. Comer

Speaking of unattainable thinness, let’s take a trip back in time or to our nearest Toys R Us. Barbie. Remember her perfect body her perfect clothes and who could forget her perfect pink corvette? Barbie was the picture perfect definition of  the “perfect” woman. Or so we thought.

A Barbie from the 1990

In the 1990’s, clinical researchers noted that Barbie, had unattainable proportions. A 5’2″ 125-pound woman who aspired to be Barbie’s size would have to grow to be 7’2″, add 5 inches to her chest and 3.2 inches to the length of her neck, and lose 6 inches from her waist (Brownell & Napolitano, 1995).

 

Even when Barbie went form pointy toe to flat foot her curves were still unrealistic

 

 

So now that we are all enlightened don’t you feel a bit better? A bit…shall we say….smarter? Who wants to be impossible? Who wants to be a 7’2″ giraffe? If you ask me those measurements sound quite alien-like to me. Not to mention that the “ideal” size is unattainable and ridiculous.

Who wants to be ridiculous looking?

Not me.

 

Not

One

Bit.

And I can tell you this from experience. I was once a model. I was in that world. That world of perfection. And I hated every second of it. I hated being seen as body that would never be perfect enough and the fact that no one cared what I thought or knew or liked my personality. They just wanted to me look pretty and strut. I had never felt more worthless in my life.

 

Take a tip from Betty White: Beauty is only confidence with a different name

So that is why I quit modeling. Because I figured that style came with personality, and when I am 79 years old I want to still feel valued. Because  while our skin may start sagging our characters  and sense of self will always stay firm.

So stand tall and stand proud of yourself and you go and your try on that dress you were once too scared about what it would reveal and you slide on that red lipstick you were too shy to try it because starting today you proud to be so radiant.

 

So take a big breath and pat yourself on the back for being who you are.

 

 

Attainable,

normal,

unique,

and

Fabulously Confident

 


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